A pretty picture of partial truths


The danger of the interwebs is the way in which it is very easy to paint partial truths of perfect lives, smiling faces, clean organised homes, happy children and having it all together, all the time.

We rarely see the mess that is left behind, the hard work of challenging children, the fights, the tears and the tantrums.

We see the prettier side of life flooding our news feeds and filling our blog rolls. Often this can leave us doing that dreaded thing of comparing ourselves and wondering how on earth they seem to have it all together and do it all when you are feeling you can barely hold all your balls, let alone juggle them.

Here’s the thing, life is messy and you are only seeing the partial truth. If you share more of the good shiny things in life, then you can bet your luck that most people are doing just the same. There is nothing wrong with that if we are always mindful of it, but that’s the hard part.

To really connect, truth is key. If you want to create a community around you, stop comparing yourself to others and chasing a reality that is not your own. You have so much to offer, your own beautifully messy, at times painful, at times joyful life. None of which can be adequately conveyed in a status update.

Be the very best version of YOU and kick butt at that.

The internet only paints a partial story of many peoples lives, so next time you fall into the trap of comparison, remind yourself that life is about a far richer, personal and beautiful journey of love, passion, grace, faith, strength and perseverance. Much of which exists beyond the screen in front of us.

I would love to hear how you feel about this? Do you find yourself comparing your life to that of others  online? I know i am guilty of it for sure!


  • Yep, I used to compare myself to others more beautiful, creative and exotic lives and I always came up short. I just realised I haven’t done it for awhile but I’m not sure what changed. Maybe I started to focus on being the best version of myself and accepting me as I am, or maybe I’ve started focussing in the beautiful souls behind the pictures and the words.


    • Bec Zacher says:

      Great to hear you have been able to stop those thoughts Lynda, you have a lovely blog and are obviously very crafty and have some amazing talents of your own. I am hopeless at crcohet! But i’m trying, your creations are gorgeous 😉

  • Jacqueline says:

    Great post Bec, I can relate to this. As a mum of 3 kids and self employed I often get asked, how do I manage to ‘do it all’ as it might seem on social media, that life is perfect. No one sees the hard work, tears and stress behind the scenes. I think we all try our best with what we have and must stop comparing our lives to others…

    • Bec Zacher says:

      Thanks Jacqueline, yes it sure can be hectic behind the scenes!Sounds like you are doing an amazing job with three little ones and a biz though, well done!

  • Debbie says:

    I love what you have written you are so perceptive and discerning. You lift my Spirit bless you xxx

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